I hope that y ou realize by now that every utterance of aliyah pushers is a manipulation. So one of their tricks is the line that "the first year is hell." That suggests that you ignore all the evidence you are encountering about life in the SSOI and rather than leave you stay on. The suggestion is that magically - and magic is the key word - it will all get better and it will be worth it. This manipulative line takes other forms. "Don't even mention going back," is a line I heard from another yenta. I ask, "Why not?" You are not obligated to live in the land of Israel. If it is going to destroy your family, you should consider going back. Another line I heard, this time from a school principal, a very arrogant American, is "Only losers can't make it here." These are the kinds of people you encounter when you move to SSOI. They are not idealists. They are idiots. Here's a different approach to the subject. Your initial experiences are...
Moving to the secular state of israel (SSOI) - Not Kedai for most people
Helping others to see through the false advertising and propaganda